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Rick
11-08-2004, 04:49 PM
With the advance of poker into the spotlight and the phenominal growth of the game, more and more people are playing.

That's great.

They read volumes of books and strategy articles to improve their game.

That's great.

But they have no clue how to act when playing in a live game.

That's not so great.

So I will be listing some of the simple do's and don'ts fror playing a live game. This 'should' cover commercial games and games at a casino and nit just hime games.

It is not always obvious, except to dealers, game hosts and those playing for years, hence this post :)

You can read this post but not reply to it or add to it. If you want or think something should be added, PM me.




1- ALWAYS call or email a host of a new game you are considering BEFORE the game starts.

And I am not talking 10 minutes.

Call or email several days ahead of time. Many games are full and/or have a regular player base and may not have room for a particular night for a new player.
NEVER just show up.
This will allow you and the game host to find out about each other to see if you 'fit' the game type. If you are a 1/2 player, you probably wont have much fun at a 24/40 game so contact them ahead of time and get the game info.


2- DON'T SPLASH THE POT. I don't care what Teddy did, it is considered bad form and really not to good for you. Place your bet in front of you. You are really not helping at all by tossing the chips into the pot. First off there may be an issue with turn, bet size etc and there will be no way to know just how much you tossed. Also some people may actually toss a 'light bet' into the pot so you will never notice they are short changing the pot.
It's hard to tell if that was 9 or 10 whites they tossed into the pile without stopping the game and counting it all.


3- DON'T ACT OUT OF TURN. Seems simple but you will be surprised how many people act ahead of turn. Either they lost track or the cards are just that bad. Trying to muck your hand from the button when the BB is betting is a tell ya know ;)


4- KNOW THE BET SIZE. Another simple one but if you don't know, ask. I have NEVER met anyone at a home game, who wasn't tilting, that would not bend over backwards to help a new player. Odds are, new players will lose when they start so you really want to make them comfortable :twisted:


5- DON'T DISCUSS A LIVE HAND. You and I both know you can calculate the 'outs' to the 5^ of the SQ RT of Pi without using your fingers, so keep it to yourself. You are not doing anyone a favor by pointing out the board has 4 to a flush, 1 off a royal, a steel wheel etc. It is every players responsibility to watch the cards and know the possible hands.
It is NOT your job to point it out to them.


6- SMOKING. Believe it or not there are still a few people who play poker who DON'T smoke. :D So make sure you know before you go whether it is allowed or they have some dark, dank, musty hellhole to send the outcasts. If you can't go 4-5 hours without, don't go at all.


7- IN YOUR FACE. It is really not very nice to jump up and down, dance around the room and get in the face of a player who just lost a big pot to your brilliant 8-3 offsuit play. I don't care if Josh does it, it is not polite, and do it to the wrong person and the pot may not cover the reconstructive surgery you will need on your now east pointing probiscus. 8)


8- DON'T MAKE CHANGE. So the person before you only has $1000 chips and needs to make a $500 bet. Don't you do it. Touching other peoples chips is a no no under ANY circumstances and the dealer will take exception to it. Let the dealer do their job and manage the game. Be a goody goody someplace else.


9- TIP THE DEALER. Believe it or not, dealing is work. It doesn't matter if the host is dealing or they are providing a dedicated dealer, you tip the dealer. You lost? So what, they still dealt. Maybe you just played bad. Tip the dealer. How much? That is a great debate I wont cover here. I have been involved in several discussions and opinions vary widely. Some tip $1 every pot they drag, some $2 and others a % of the pot. No matter what you do it will be appreciated so tip the dealer. Clear :)

10 - Respect the host, his home and his property. The host is inviting people over to his home to give them another place to play. The Host does not have to extend the invitation...and if you disrespect his/her, his home or his property, you may not get invited back...or worse yet, he may just discontinue having games at his home. Show the host the respect that he/she deserves and you will continue to be welcome.

I am sure I will add more later but this is a pretty good start and if you follow these rules, you will stand a better chance of being asked back to a good game then being asked to see who is at the door and being locked out ;)


More suggestions:

String bets are no-no's. If you intend to raise say so, then get your chips together and then push them out in one motion

Bring small bills when appropriate... if the buy-in is $5 don't show up with just $20's because making change can be a pain when everyone does the same thing

Some hosts will provide snacks, but if you want to eat/drink something... bring it with you

Most hosts will have house rules/tournament info posted somewhere or otherwise available, take the time to review their rules so you know what you are getting into

Take whatever time you need to think when it's your turn, but don't hollywood every hand

mattkrol
05-23-2005, 10:48 PM
I like that!

idh78
05-24-2005, 12:30 AM
I agree, Rick this is one of the best and most important posts on here..

martinjho
05-24-2005, 12:46 PM
I have one addition:

DON'T COMMIT TO PLAYING AT A HOME GAME UNLESS YOU ARE 110% POSITIVE YOU WILL COME!!! Now I understand there's always the chance for extenuating circumstances, but as one who puts together home games, it's EXTREMELY frustrating when you are counting on people who commit, turn others away, and then get last minute cancellations and cant fill the table and have a short handed game.

This sentiment (and frustration) has been shared by others who organize home games...

Thanks!

jnewmanco1
05-24-2005, 01:19 PM
Bravo. I agree wholeheartedly. I've been tossing around the idea of "overbooking" like the airlines do just because of this very thing. Then, at the game, I will have to start turning people away or starting a 'standby' list of players when everyone does show up. Actually now I just try to get a certain number of players committed, knowing that some of them will wuss out and not show, and not even bother to call to say they aren't going to show, and play with whatever I get. It sucks but it seems that getting guys to commit to something important like poker is like pulling teeth. Don't get me started on this again. Maybe I'll start pre-registration for my games and have people pay their buy-in upfront in order to get a seat.

tjholdem
05-24-2005, 02:29 PM
Actually now I just try to get a certain number of players committed.

That could be why people don't show up...if you get them committed, they will need a pass to get out.

jnewmanco1
05-24-2005, 02:43 PM
I've come to the conclusion that perhaps it is I that should be committed. I looked through all of my immense library of poker books and I could not find one of them that said pocket 8's is one of the top ten starting hands. I know I read that somewhere.

mtn_roadie
05-24-2005, 03:45 PM
I've come to the conclusion that perhaps it is I that should be committed. I looked through all of my immense library of poker books and I could not find one of them that said pocket 8's is one of the top ten starting hands. I know I read that somewhere.

That would be in Phil Helmuth's book:

1. A-A
2. K-K
3. Q-Q
4. A-K
5. J-J
6. 10-10
7. 9-9
8. 8-8
9. A-Q
10. 7-7

See, you're not all that crazy :razz:

pseudoswede
05-24-2005, 05:55 PM
I also hate people who always act like a hot shot player. This is a home game, not the WSOP. There's no need to get your panties in a bunch because of small rules violation--i.e., folding out of turn or checking when you didn't know there was a bet on the table. There's also no need to constantly tell the dealer how to create sidepots.

Another thing that me and my friends like to stress at our home games: you should leave at the end of the night happy, regardless if you won or lost money. If you're just there to win money, go to Blackhawk--we don't want you. Home games should be a fun, social atmosphere. If you win money, that's great. If not, then at least it was an enjoyable evening hanging out, joking around, drinking beers, and playing poker.

That's kind of why I'm leery of attending other home games on this board. If it's a constantly serious atmosphere, I won't have fun, even if I win. However, there have been some positive reviews of some member's tournaments on this board, and I truly hope to make it out to a few in the near future.

pseudoswede
05-24-2005, 05:58 PM
I've been tossing around the idea of "overbooking" like the airlines do just because of this very thing.

If I say I'm coming and show up early, can I volunteer to get bumped? Can I expect a free plane ticket or free entry into the next tournament? ;) :lol:

idh78
05-24-2005, 08:21 PM
Another thing that me and my friends like to stress at our home games: you should leave at the end of the night happy, regardless if you won or lost money. If you're just there to win money, go to Blackhawk--we don't want you. Home games should be a fun, social atmosphere. If you win money, that's great. If not, then at least it was an enjoyable evening hanging out, joking around, drinking beers, and playing poker.

Damn, I want to come to your game, that exactly what poker is for me, a good time with good people. I would recommend checking out Guero's game on Thursday's, it's exactly what you described...

thermustat
06-01-2005, 02:49 PM
Those are good rules to follow. Also I would like to add that one should shower and use some deoderant, certainly on those longer sessions. It gets bad when someone new shows up smelling up the place all night. Be kind

tjholdem
06-02-2005, 08:08 AM
Those are good rules to follow. Also I would like to add that one should shower and use some deoderant, certainly on those longer sessions. It gets bad when someone new shows up smelling up the place all night. Be kind

:17: Doggie, did you go to his game without bathing again???

Wetdog
06-02-2005, 08:32 AM
That's just the way a Wetdog smells!

Parrish02
07-13-2005, 01:03 AM
Good post for those of us who haven't played much.

Thanks!

airmonkey5
07-29-2005, 06:08 PM
if everyone followed your advice i would not have given up on home games for 2 months. I really want to find people who play your way. :D

CAMERONSCROFT
08-05-2005, 04:02 PM
As many of you have dealt or are dealers, I'd be interesting in hearing more about what the suggestions are for tipping dealers, I can never tell what it cheap, right on the money or excessive.......

Thanks

Crazy Iraqi
08-06-2005, 10:05 AM
As many of you have dealt or are dealers, I'd be interesting in hearing more about what the suggestions are for tipping dealers, I can never tell what it cheap, right on the money or excessive.......

A dollar for every hand that you win is not a bad idea

Crazy Iraqi

bse523
01-08-2006, 02:37 PM
Another one: don't show up to a home game already piss drunk. Eventually you'll start saying inappropriate comments and tilt more easily, thus pissing off everyone else. I had this happen at our home game a few weeks ago. A fistfight broke out.

idh78
01-13-2006, 05:06 PM
Another one: don't show up to a home game already piss drunk. Eventually you'll start saying inappropriate comments and tilt more easily, thus pissing off everyone else. I had this happen at our home game a few weeks ago. A fistfight broke out.


On that note, first and foremost, never disrespect the host...you will not be invited back...

tjholdem
07-31-2006, 12:05 PM
Another one: don't show up to a home game already piss drunk. Eventually you'll start saying inappropriate comments and tilt more easily, thus pissing off everyone else. I had this happen at our home game a few weeks ago. A fistfight broke out.

Damn, I guess Doggie and I have to stay home from now on. Gimme another beer!!?!?

king charles
01-14-2008, 09:53 PM
Who has actually read some set of rules of poker?

Maybe one guy at a table of 10. I like when someone brings the knowledge of how to deal with mideals etc. I have read various rulebooks.

What set of rules do people with home poker groups use?? :confused:

loomisdl
01-15-2008, 02:48 PM
Who has actually read some set of rules of poker?

Maybe one guy at a table of 10. I like when someone brings the knowledge of how to deal with mideals etc. I have read various rulebooks.

What set of rules do people with home poker groups use?? :confused:

I use Roberts Rules of Poker.

dexman1349
01-15-2008, 02:55 PM
There are rules for poker? :D

I've always played "house rules" which are based on all of the attending players' basic knowledge of the game. If there are any conflicts, the host decides.

We don't need no stinking rule books.